When I wrote my Turning Twenty Five post last year, I was both eager and terrified to face the truth. My inner self was contemplating on both material and non-material things. I am positive that I can achieve some while the others I know are entirely impossible. But as I reached the age of 26, I became more certain and at peace.
Though I had a tough year, I can say that it was also an exciting one. I remember repeating to myself, “God I trust in you and I will cooperate.” On my 25th year, I experienced many firsts. As Major Anthony “Tony” Nelson, my favorite character said in one ‘I Dream of Jeannie’ episode, “You take the good with the bad, and be thankful for what you’ve got.” I thank you for the good things and the bad things. Both experiences and feelings I had may be new, but those are life lessons I should acknowledge.
Now, I want to share with you my 26 realizations. You do not have to take all these personally and hopefully will not take it in a wrong way. Different things happen to different people. It is just a matter of perception.
- When you love, love. People can be blind sometimes. You say you love them but don’t show it. You see, you must treat that person or any living creature well. Let them feel your love no matter how much distance exists.
- Let it go, one of the many things Disney’s ‘Frozen’ taught us. If you feel that something or someone does not want/ need you, learn to let go. Letting go paves way for second chances and opportunities, so keep your eyes peeled.
- Do not be afraid to start over. You may be holding on to something and afraid to start again (as per number two) that is why you can’t let go. Be brave to start over because maybe this time you’ll get it right.
- You exercise daily not because you want to have hot body. You do it to take good care of yourself.
- Having a downtime is good for everyone. Work is usually 9 to 5 and five days a week. There is no need to rush or stress out. Slow it down. Curl up and read a book or find a new hobby.
- You will be making many sacrifices. Some already made such sacrifices at an early age. But being an adult, people expect more. As you do these, don’t forget that you were once young. Age is just a number, try to be a kid once in a while and enjoy the little things.
- Do not be like Red Forman alone. Be like Eric Forman as well. Do not be afraid of your feelings. Embrace them. It means you’re alive.
- Surround yourself with the people you love. Eliminate the negative people and/or activities.
- Remember that family comes first but never neglect other people who are also dear to you.
- Take charge. If the situation permits it, take charge and speak up especially if you have something to contribute in fixing a problem.
- Inspiration is hard to come by. Learn to inspire and motivate yourself. Draw inspiration and motivation from art, books, films, music or other people.
- It is important to listen to others’ opinion and take it into consideration. Just because you are sure of yourself does not mean you are not prone to faults or mistakes. Listen to others especially to those who are with you most of the time.
- If you feel happy after making a huge decision, it means you did the right thing. Good job on that!
- If you can relax after a tough day and you can listen to your thoughts clearly, you my friend are on the right track. Congratulations!
- Waking up and looking forward to start your day is a sign that you are living a healthy life. Thank God for another day to appreciate life.
- Do not worry about the future. What matters most are the accomplishments and the goals you have. Take one step at a time.
- It doesn’t bother you if people say; you only have a few friends because you know that the few friends you have are true. They trust you and you can trust them forever.
- There will always be braggers. They may crave the attention, they may be insecure and whatnot. You can listen to them when they talk; however, you should not tolerate such behavior. Believe me, especially if that person is close to you, you will suffer and have difficulty having a normal conversation. Let them know. Communicate with them.
- As you grow older, looking for the right clothes become harder. You can’t shop in stores you usually visit. Not to mention, the cost and you will start to look different. No matter how difficult it is, always go with what you are comfortable with. It doesn’t have to be “bongga” as if you’re going to a party. You just have to wear the right clothes.
- Don’t waste time looking everywhere. Try to focus on a certain thing. Whatever it is you are looking for might be right in front of you.
- Chance is a gift. Use it wisely.
- Smartphones are marvelous creations. Buy one and use it to play, take photos and videos.
- Like smartphones, planners are also wonderful. Make plans. Doodle. After a year, browse on it and look back at the various things you did the entire year. You can also write your ideas. Once an idea is lost, it will be lost forever. Write it down. Something good might come out.
- Being a parent is difficult. Though I am single, I have already planned to discipline my future kids early. Teach them the value of everything but do not take away their right to be kids.
- Young adult novels will always be a part of me. It doesn’t matter if I/you turn 30+. The important things are reading books you like, learning from it, and escaping reality even just for a while.
- EBooks may be convenient. But as you grow older and have a family, you will want to read or want your kids to read stories from actual books. So just borrow books and only buy the ones that you want to read again or want your kids to read like John Green’s The Fault in Our Stars, Suzanne Collins’ The Hunger Games, and Rainbow Rowell’s Eleanor & Park.
There you have it, my 26 life lessons and realizations. I hope you learned something valuable from the ones I have listed because it is not only applicable for people my age. It is for everyone.
Apart from turning 26 today, I am also celebrating Clari Says | Live. Write. Draw. First Blogiversary! In addition to my 26 realizations, I promise to go out and blog more. Though I must say, I was pretty productive this year. I hope you read my past entries as well as my future entries. Thank you for your support and,
P.S Don’t forget to listen to my Blog Anniversary Playlist on Spotify. Enjoy!